I know that when most of you all saw this title, you thought of Tamar Braxton Herbert,Toni Braxton’s baby sister, but there is actually another Tamar that I wanted to blog about. ThisTamar lived a few thousand years ago and is the daughter of King David, this Tamar is mentioned in 2 Samuel 13:1-22 (there are also two other Tamar’s mentioned in the Bible, one being this Tamar’s niece). I wanted to talk about Tamar to reach out to all of the women that may have had Tamar like experience in their life, steps to allow God to heal, and the and the plans that the enemy had for your lives after the incidents have happened. Let’s begin with 2 Samuel 13 (NLT)
2 Samuel 13
Now David’s son Absalom had a beautiful sister named Tamar. And Amnon, her half brother, fell desperately in love with her. 2 Amnon became so obsessed with Tamar that he became ill. She was a virgin, and Amnon thought he could never have her.3 But Amnon had a very crafty friend—his cousin Jonadab. He was the son of David’s brother Shimea.[a] 4 One day Jonadab said to Amnon, “What’s the trouble? Why should the son of a king look so dejected morning after morning?”So Amnon told him, “I am in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.”5 “Well,” Jonadab said, “I’ll tell you what to do. Go back to bed and pretend you are ill. When your father comes to see you, ask him to let Tamar come and prepare some food for you. Tell him you’ll feel better if she prepares it as you watch and feeds you with her own hands.”6 So Amnon lay down and pretended to be sick. And when the king came to see him, Amnon asked him, “Please let my sister Tamar come and cook my favorite dish[b] as I watch. Then I can eat it from her own hands.” 7 So David agreed and sent Tamar to Amnon’s house to prepare some food for him.8 When Tamar arrived at Amnon’s house, she went to the place where he was lying down so he could watch her mix some dough. Then she baked his favorite dish for him. 9 But when she set the serving tray before him, he refused to eat. “Everyone get out of here,” Amnon told his servants. So they all left.10 Then he said to Tamar, “Now bring the food into my bedroom and feed it to me here.” So Tamar took his favorite dish to him. 11 But as she was feeding him, he grabbed her and demanded, “Come to bed with me, my darling sister.”12 “No, my brother!” she cried. “Don’t be foolish! Don’t do this to me! Such wicked things aren’t done in Israel. 13 Where could I go in my shame? And you would be called one of the greatest fools in Israel. Please, just speak to the king about it, and he will let you marry me.”14 But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her, and since he was stronger than she was, he raped her. 15 Then suddenly Amnon’s love turned to hate, and he hated her even more than he had loved her. “Get out of here!” he snarled at her.16 “No, no!” Tamar cried. “Sending me away now is worse than what you’ve already done to me.”But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her. 17 He shouted for his servant and demanded, “Throw this woman out, and lock the door behind her!”18 So the servant put her out and locked the door behind her. She was wearing a long, beautiful robe,[c] as was the custom in those days for the king’s virgin daughters. 19 But now Tamar tore her robe and put ashes on her head. And then, with her face in her hands, she went away crying.
Some of you reading this may have been a Tamar throughout one point and time in your life whether it’s been rape, molestation, incest, etc, as an adult, teen, or child. Some have been left without a voice and without justice being done. Some walk around feeling guilty, like the reason why the incident happened is because they were at fault. Some feel embarrassed that such a tragic event has happened to them. Some feel ashamed and can’t find a way to open up, especially if the incident was done in silent. Some feel abnormal because of what happened to them. Sexual perversion can shape a person’s personality, and the person may not even realize that they are this way because of what happened. It can cause them to put up a guard, not to trust people, think that everyone’s out to get them, walk around with a chip on their shoulder, hard to forgive people, walk around depressed and with hate in their heart, a bad attitude, and hard to receive love. Also with this sexual perversion there are some plans that the enemy had for your life through this sexual perversion. A lot of times the devil attacks children through sexual abuse at an early age, because he wants their life experience of sexual relations to be perverted, including that of fornication, homosexuality, selling their bodies, such as prostitution, promiscuity,using their bodies to seduce people, exotic dancing, wearing seductive clothes, pornography, masturabation and to be an adulterer, as well as using drugs and alcohol to mask the pain. Yes these are the plans that satan has for people when he attacks them sexually. Yes these are the perverted plans that he has, and he starts off by attacking with rape, molestation, incest, etc (especially at an early age). I’m not saying that everyone that has been sexually abused will turn out this way, but if this is you, these things do not have to be your fate or your lifestyle because God is a Healer and a Deliverer.
What the enemy intends for bad, God can turn it around for good (Genesis 50:20). God is a healer of emotional hurts and is a deliverer from the traps of the enemy. God can heal emotions to the point where it feels as if the incident never occurred in the first place (Genesis 41:51). There is no shame in God. He loves you. Here are some steps that will help you deal with the pain of the sexual abuse that occurred.
Step 1: Change your mindset, when you change your mindset, it will change your life. Know that in your heart that God loves you, He wants to answer your prayers, meet your every need, answer your questions, heal your wounds.
Step 2: Rebuke the enemy. Whenever the enemy tries to make you feel condemn, guilty, weak or ashamed, rebuke him. Tell him that he will not bombard your mind with the negative thoughts The enemy has told us so many lies, that it seems like the truth and we do not even realize that it was him that planted that negative seed there. Therefore, when the enemy brings negative thoughts to your mind, rebuke him, change what you are thinking. The best way to change what you are thinking is to fine scriptures of hope and bright outcome of the situation.
Step 3:Have confidence that God will move on your behalf, do not give up even when things do not seem like they are going to get better. Soup yourself up, “I know my God has my back!”
Step 4: Speak Life over your situation, by speaking the Word over your situation. The word of God helps to break chains that the enemy wants us to be bound up in. It is important that we read God’s word because it helps us to know who God is, what He is capable of doing, the great promises He has for our lives, and teaches us how to be successful.
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